Sexy and safe holiday gifts to give your partner this year

By: Jennifer McMillen Smith, MSSA, LISW-S, Division of Infectious Disease and medically reviewed by Ann Avery, Infectious Disease Physician at Metrohealth Medical Center

This holiday season is quickly approaching, and we want you to enjoy this time of year. I know we all have experienced a very different year than what we expected last December. But with that, kudos to you and I hope you are able to celebrate yourself this go-round. If you’re in the mood, we have something for you. We have a list of gifts you can give your partner(s) to spice up things in the bedroom! 💁🏿‍♂️🍆😉💦

Antzinyopants is a great place to start, y’all! They have literally everything that screams sexy - briefs, jockstraps, robes, shorts, and durags. They have sets and separates. This is an amazing collection of goodies your partner will be drooling over. 😋😉  Their first apparel collection, “Blossom,” is available for pre-sale. Be sure to check out their matching jockstrap and mask. Their bestsellers include the Black Angel briefs and jockstrap along with the Blossom briefs and jockstraps. For more looks, here’s their Instagram.

Toys that bring joy

If you’re looking for toys and lube, here are a few of our fav recommendations:

Silicone Booty Beads: soft smooth and tapered Silicone beaded probe. It’s perfectly sized and has an easy retrieval ring.

Natural Anal Relaxer: a water-based formula delicately warms and relaxes anal muscles for easy entry. Perfect for an enjoyable anal experience.

Classic Butt Plug is firm and flexible. Specifically designed for anal play and comes in medium and large sizes for your pleasure!

This Vibrating Silicone Booty Probe is a silicone massager with an easy pull handle. It’s waterproof with a 3-speed removable stimulator is controlled by the push of a button. Probe features an easy retrieval loop.

The Prostimulator is designed for intense prostate stimulation which may heighten the climax. Its probe is shaped and curved to massage the prostate. Probe measures 5 inches in length the perfect length for a good time.

The Anal Trainer Kit includes three firm butt plugs that are perfect for all activities with your boo(s)!  They are durable plugs and perfect for comfort and ease.

Earthly Body's blend of 100% natural oils provides a slick, professional glide. Better yet, this formula is packed with nutrients that absorb into the skin for deep conditioning and moisturizing without a greasy residue. There are high levels of Omega 3 and 6 Essential Fatty Acids which nourish and protect the skin.

The Boy Butter H2O water-based cream lubricant has Vitamin E and Shea butter. The formula is totally latex safe. Boy Butter H2O is long-lasting, gentle, and leaves no stains. It also absorbs into the skin and can be used as a moisturizer or lotion.

Good Clean Love Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant is made with aloe vera and infused with a touch of lemon and vanilla. It is long-lasting and 100% vegan and gluten-free. It’s also safe for toys.

Erotic Massage Deck helps get things rolling into action.  The deck of 48 cards lists different strokes and techniques. In the spirit of sharing, split the deck and go stroke for stroke.

These sexy, fun goodies are available online but also check your local businesses for these items. We are all about #shoppingsmall this holiday season, y’all! If they don’t have them, feel free to ask for alternatives. We all have different tastes, and your desires should be made a priority! Spread the gift of pleasure this season!

Here is a shortlist of black-owned sex toy businesses, too:

Hart’s Desire is a husband-and-wife team out of the Washington, DC area. They have sex toys, lingerie, dancewear, sexy heels, and more.

Feelmore is a great company doing great work and providing fun toys to the community.  Want a vibrator, lube, or a dildo? They have it all, y’all!

Indulgence Boutique comes highly recommended.😉 They have condoms, books, toys, harnesses, and butt plugs. Their selection is great and we guarantee you’ll find something you and your boo will want!

Pleasure is important and it’s necessary. If you know what you like, we encourage you to indulge this holiday season! If you’re not sure or want to explore, have fun exploring! We wish you a pleasure-filled, sexy, and fun holiday season. 😉❤️






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